Incensed

I just had the most unbelievable conversation with my Mom - and I don't mean in a good way.

It started with her asking if I had fixed a date for the DE cycle because that she had a few concerns that she wanted to talk to me about. We decided that we would talk in the evening tomorrow.

Of course, curiosity got the better of me and when we spoke later in the evening I asked her what she wanted to ask. So she hesitantly asked me if I was sure I wanted to do this and if I had thought through the impact it would have on my life, basically that a baby changes everything.

I told her that I was ready for that change, and sure while I too sometimes have doubts, I also know that sometimes in life one needs to take a leap of faith and do something without over-thinking it.

Seriously, if people actually started thinking about day to day what issues could arise raising a child nobody would ever do it.

So, then my Mom brings up this thing -- very hesitantly asking if I have thought about guardianship of the child in the event something happens to me. Of course she did not say that but I could see where she was going with it.

Apparently my sister brought it up and said that she was done bringing up her kids and did not want responsibility for a child, and SHE basically asked my Mom to see if I had given it any thought.

Can you believe that?  I had written a post about my sis and her selfishness....but I was shocked that she would even mention it!

I am not even pregnant yet and SHE is concerned that she does not get saddled with a baby in the event I died???????

F-ing unbelievable!!!!

I told my Mom, that I given her selfishness I would not plan to have her as a guardian anyways, so she can stop worrying about it.

I am so incensed right now.

My sis has not even acknowledging my chemical or my divorce last year, and basically being completely disinterested in the entire process. I had posted about that back in Nov.

Yet she had become the guardian of a  total stranger who is the son of a friend. Sure that kid is 22 yrs old but is troubled, cannot keep a job, etc.  She has also become the guardian of the mother who is 60+ year old and is always in poor health, breaking her arm, hip etc every few months.

My sis is married to a very selfish man who has maintained no ties with his family.  Their kids, now 17yrs and 19 yrs, though smart have no family they are contact with other than my parents and myself.  They are being brought up as equally selfish people like their parents who don't believe in helping family even in small ways. My sis has never offered to take my parents to any Drs appts, or anything, and when she does she always flakes out at the last minute.

She has been blessed with a very good life - no issues, no drama - and I think that has added to her general selfishness.

Well, enough said -- I am extremely disappointed in my sister. Though why  would be is odd given I know how she is.

Frankly after last year, I was not planning to rely on her anyways.

I am sad to say that I think my contact with her will probably only remain until my parents are alive, I don't foresee continuing it after that.

Oh and here is something ironic -- my sis's husband was 43yrs when their younger kid was born....so that is no different than what age I will be!  AND she has had my parents as primary and me as secondary guardian all these years.....I did not tell her that "hey I am having a great life I don't want to be saddled with your kids!"

Update: 
I have certanly thought through the guardainship previously and I will make appropriate arragements if I was to get pregnant. It is the responsible thing to do, and I don't disagree with that. My point is that instead of mentioning the guardianship aspect, she is more interested in making sure that her life does not get affected. That is what bothers me...if something was to happen to her I would do everything in my power to be there for her kids, regardless of how I was situated in life.